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07 September 2013 @ 05:38 pm
And Life's Journey Ends  
It's over. At a little after 4 this afternoon, Anissa's dad, Tom, passed away. He fought the good fight until the end, always too stubborn to go, but this time it was just too much for him. He was tired. And we loved him enough to respect his wishes when he said it was time. After smack-talking and ax-fighting the Reaper so long, he was ready.

We miss you, Tom, and wish that we had had more time with the man we were coming to know in the end. We love you and things will never be the same.

May Destiny and Fate be kind enough to lend us half the strength and determination to get us through life's fights the way that you example taught us.

Forgot to add, please understand if I don't answer here and on Facebook immediately. The two of us are just trying to keep a eye on each other and cope. We're reading everything, we carry your wishes with us, but we're just trying to deal. Give us a couple of days to digest this.
januaried: reeveverse :: superman :: forever in my januaried on September 7th, 2013 09:45 pm (UTC)
Oh god, I'm so sorry. At least it sounds like he was ready for this, which seems like a good thing; better to meet Death on one's own terms.

Please send all my love to Anissa, and know that I'm always available if either of you need to talk, or rant, or be distracted, or just get some love. Hang in there and let me know how things are.

*snuggles you both in tightly* ♥
Lois: Clois :: Hold Mekalalanekent on September 17th, 2013 05:07 pm (UTC)
It was. It was time; I think he was ready, but we weren't. When it really started to happen, we just couldn't get our minds around it. And here it is a week later and we're still trying to get our heads straight about what happened.

I'm sorry I haven't been around, but Anissa and I have been clinging to each other a little bit. It's so quiet that it's weird around here. We both still feel a little lost, watching TV together and fixing up the house . I should be back on by the end of the week. I just haven't been talkative after work very much. I almost wish I had taken last week off. After faking that I was okay and cheerful to the customers, I was just worn out. Haven't been sleeping well, either.

We're meeting with the lawyer and will know what we're doing from here on out after tomorrow, so maybe I'll get settled then. I'm hoping.

I miss you so much. I promise, I am coming back to you. I just have to get my head straight.

*hearts; *snuggles you back*
januaried: reeveverse :: superman :: forever in my januaried on September 17th, 2013 06:11 pm (UTC)
bb, I completely understand. Don't worry about it at all. I'm really glad you and Anissa have each other to cling to and are dealing. *smishes you both*

Love and hugs and the usual wishes for you to take care of yourself and get some more sleep. <3
athenesolon: Lois and Kal-El Hugathenesolon on September 7th, 2013 09:47 pm (UTC)
Oh god...

Lois: Clois :: Cute Cuddlekalalanekent on September 17th, 2013 05:08 pm (UTC)
Yeah, it's taken about a week to get my head around it. We both pretty much shut down afterwards. Trying to get the house back in order has been the main focus at this point. It's going to take a while to adjust after 12 years.

*hugs back*
Loony Loopy Lea Lovegood: Anne | HUGSchickadilly on September 7th, 2013 11:07 pm (UTC)
I love you both so much. *Many, many hugs*

I'm around to talk if you ever need a friend.

Lois: LS-Verse :: Lana Lois :: Sisterskalalanekent on September 17th, 2013 05:11 pm (UTC)
And we love you, honey. And we might still, but we've both pretty much been like kids lost in the dark for the last week or so. 12 years of the constant worry, stress, and such and then nothing? Well, except the stress of not knowing what comes next? Earth-shattering. Finally starting to get our minds around it.

*hugs you extra tight*
saavikam77: Clark Tearssaavikam77 on September 8th, 2013 12:10 am (UTC)
Oh, honey. Just, I wanna hug you guys so hard.

Know that I'm here if either of you need to vent or rant or cry or talk fic or whatever. I always have my phone on, and I won't mind if you wake me up.

*super tight hugs all around*
Lois: Lois :: Sadkalalanekent on September 17th, 2013 05:15 pm (UTC)
And we'd happily take the hugs. Hell, we'd come up there to get them if we could. Let's put it this way; you know me and writing. I haven't written a word beyond posts here and on FB and Tumblr. That's when you know it's tough. :(

Didn't get a chance to mention it in all the crazy, but our cell phone were dying the last couple of weeks, so we couldn't call. Anissa's having them replaced tonight, so you might just hear back from us on the calls.

We love you, honey, very very much.
saavikam77: Clois Flightsaavikam77 on September 17th, 2013 05:37 pm (UTC)
*snuggles you both super-hard some more*

You guys have been in my thoughts a lot the last two weeks; I know how draining it is to deal with grief so hard that you can't even do the things you love.

No worries about calling. I totally understand. Just know that I'm here when you need me.

Love you guys so much, too! *smishes*
thekiller00thekiller00 on September 8th, 2013 03:09 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about his passing. It's always hard to lose someone that you love and care greatly for.
Lois: Lois :: Smilekalalanekent on September 17th, 2013 05:17 pm (UTC)
Thanks, hon. It was a long and difficult course we were all on, but we did love him and found out that he really did love us. He was a man of few words, when left to himself, so that was, I think, what blew us out of the water right before he left. Now we just have to figure out what life is like after Tom.
the_scary_kitty: Hug Stitch!the_scary_kitty on September 8th, 2013 03:16 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to read about this, it's never easy when you lose someone you love. Please give my best wishes to Anissa and know that I'm thinking about you both. *hugs you both*
Lois: Clois :: Hold Mekalalanekent on September 17th, 2013 05:21 pm (UTC)
Thanks, darling. It's just so hard to get through your head that, after 12 years of having to watch someone like a hawk, they're not there. And won't ever be there again. It's a hole in your heart because you're so used to them being there and then, too, it's a freedom. And when you realize it's a freedom, you feel guilty. We're still finding our way through it. But we have each other and that should be enough.

*hugs you back*
(Anonymous) on September 8th, 2013 08:26 pm (UTC)
All my condolences.

Take the time you need to mourn, and to manage your grief. The most important thing, right now, is to be there for each other and your family. We will wait patiently and we will be there to read your stories when you feel like writing them again. In the meantime we will understand if you want to take a break.

Take care of yourselves first. The rest will keep.

Lauré :(
Lois: Clois :: B&W Smileskalalanekent on September 17th, 2013 05:26 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Laure. We both having to learn to do just that, which is tough for both of us. So much of our life has been wrapped up in Tom being here and living with us that it's been a bit of a tailspin and we're finally getting our bearings. After all this time, it's a lot to work through even without the other things that come along with a death in the family.

We've actually started to tentatively get back to the writing, as of Sunday. Sadly, what we wrote is a fluffy little piece that involves a future relationship, so you guys won't see that for a bit yet. But agreed. We wanted to wait until we felt inspired again.

Love you, hon. ♥
Ferd: Bruce- cannot endure angstferdalump on September 10th, 2013 08:43 pm (UTC)
My thoughts are with you and Anissa and your family. So sorry to hear this sad news. :( *Many Hugs to you both*
Lois: Lois :: Sadkalalanekent on September 17th, 2013 05:38 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Ferd. We really appreciate it. Life's going to take a little while to get used to again. But we're trying harder every day and, of course, we have you guys. And that makes it a little easier. *many hugs back to you, Chad, and the Batlet*